Death doula, attorney, and spiritual guide Alua Arthur joins us to explore how embracing mortality awakens us to life’s deepest meaning. Through her book Briefly Perfectly Human and her work helping people die with peace and purpose, Alua invites us to face what we fear most — not to prepare for dying, but to learn how to live fully. We explore the taboos around death, the regrets people hold at the end of life, and the powerful clarity that comes from asking what remains undone.
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00:00 Intro
04:20 What Is a Death Doula?
08:10 How Facing Death Changes How We Live
12:45 Why We Fear Death
17:15 Imagining Your Own Death
21:40 The Most Common Regrets of the Dying
26:05 What Remains Undone in Your Life?
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30:10 Facing Mortality as a Spiritual Practice
34:50 The Art of Dying Well
39:25 The Beauty of Grief and Letting Go
43:10 How to Be Present With the Dying
47:30 Conversations About Death With Loved Ones
51:00 How Alua Found Her Calling
55:40 What Dying People Teach About Living Fully
1:00:15 Grief, Identity, and Rebirth
1:05:30 How to Support Someone Who’s Grieving
1:10:45 The Mystery of What Happens After Death
1:15:00 The “Glitter Wave” Theory of Consciousness
1:20:20 Reimagining Rituals Around Death
1:25:40 Living Authentically Before It’s Too Late
1:30:00 Conclusion
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