The Huberman Lab episode out this week is about contracts for love and money—which might sound like a downer, but as attorney James Sexton explains, these contracts are more about defining the specific things people need in order to feel respected and safe, as opposed to protecting “the ending.” In fact, much of what goes into these agreements is about the marriage, not divorce conditions.
Also, somewhat counterintuitively, people who create prenuptial agreements get divorced far less than the average population. The current divorce rate in the United States is 56% (!).
Note: The episode is not really about divorce. It’s about love, and it also addresses the forces outside a relationship that can erode it, as well as the things to pay attention to in order to avoid those increasingly common pitfalls.
Through both his profession and his life, James has adopted a unique and important perspective on all of this. It’s an episode that ought to benefit anyone—married, single, divorced, etc.—because it addresses the emotional and legal contracts around romantic relationships that most everyone encounters at some point.
James is also an amazing storyteller and a genuinely good human being. It was a pleasure to host him.
