Gabor Maté believes trauma isn’t what happened to you. It’s the wound it left behind and unlike the event itself, that wound can still be healed.
In this clip, Gabor Maté and Jay Shetty talk about why vulnerability literally means "the capacity to be wounded," and why the mind builds itself to keep you from ever feeling that pain again.
Gabor breaks down the needs every child is wired to expect, and what happens when even loving parents can’t meet them. He explains why two kids raised by the same addict can end up on completely different paths, and why "time heals all wounds" isn’t actually true.
Learn why loneliness has nothing to do with how many people are around you, and why Gabor says the mind you carry into every relationship was built the day no one knew how to hold you.
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Chapters
0:00 — Dr. Gabor Maté explains what trauma actually is
3:01 — Why healing means becoming whole
5:00 — Why time alone doesn’t heal a wound
5:20 — Vulnerability is the capacity to be wounded
7:08 — The needs that wound a child
10:57 — Why kids’ anxiety keeps rising
11:26 — Pain vs trauma and the grief circuit
14:18 — Why the mind is built to avoid pain
16:21 — Why siblings turn out so differently
18:26 — Why the world feels harder to live in
20:10 — Alone vs lonely
22:45 — Buddha, Hitler, and human nature
27:03 — The best advice Gabor ever got
28:36 — Gabor’s purpose in life
Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️
Netflix – https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD
Spotify – https://dub.sh/axUXylv
Full Episode With Gabor Maté:
https://youtu.be/OTQJmkXC2EI
