Weeks of texting someone feels like intimacy. It’s actually the safest way to never get rejected.
In this clip, Jillian Turecki and Jay Shetty talk about the three mistakes people keep making in dating, and why the fourth one, the month-long text thread with a stranger, might be the most expensive of all.
Jillian breaks down why we chase the people who don’t want us and lose interest in the ones who do, what "chemistry" is actually measuring, and why the person you pick matters more than almost any other decision you’ll make. Jay shares the friend who came back from a perfect date and didn’t want a second one.
Learn about the difference between a spark and a value, why your 16-year-old self is still running your dating life, and the one piece of advice from a therapist that Jillian calls the worst she’s ever received.
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Chapters
0:00 — The three biggest dating mistakes
1:59 — The month-long text thread that fakes intimacy
4:36 — Building the resilience-to-rejection muscle
6:59 — There is no "the one"
8:35 — Slowing down when the chemistry hits
9:22 — The most important decision you’ll ever make
10:29 — Why we want the people who don’t want us
13:17 — Fear of intimacy and the emotionally unavailable type
14:39 — The man who looks strong and isn’t safe
16:57 — Building self-esteem without being precious with yourself
19:33 — "There are no good men left"
20:44 — The dinner conversation that changed her friend’s mind
24:01 — Why you keep dating the same person
25:34 — Aura and charisma aren’t character
27:06 — What changes about attraction as you mature
30:47 — Still chasing your 16-year-old crush
32:17 — The perfect date she didn’t want a second one after
34:43 — Honesty from date one vs. oversharing
36:32 — Why withholding becomes the sickness
40:58 — Waiting for your partner to change overnight
43:33 — If you want an apple, sit under an apple tree
46:59 — How to know who to make it work with
52:31 — What to do when nothing’s wrong but nothing’s right
55:24 — The reflection to do after a breakup
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Episode Resources:
https://youtube.com/@jillian.turecki?si=MujfV6iVZsZ9RGLq
https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki?igsh=Mnh4djZsNjFxbXZq
https://www.facebook.com/share/16Ekhv9oMK/
https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMksPLhD8/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillian-turecki-033794a5?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=android_app
https://www.jillianturecki.com/
https://www.amazon.com/Begins-You-Truths-About-Change/dp/0063374366
