The more you try to make your kids happy, the more you set them up for anxiety later.
In this clip, Dr. Becky Kennedy and Jay Shetty talk about how parenting swung from ignoring kids’ feelings to letting those feelings take the wheel, and why neither one raises a strong adult.
Becky explains why a tantrum can mean you did your job, what a real boundary is (and why "don’t press the elevator buttons" isn’t one), and the birthday party meltdown one mom called her biggest parenting win.
Learn about the three short lines that help a kid through a hard feeling, why yelling isn’t the part that does the damage, and why being bored at your sibling’s soccer game is good for you.
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Chapters
0:00 — When kids’ feelings start running the show
1:29 — Why we became scared of our kids’ emotions
2:15 — The other half of your job as a parent
4:24 — What being a "good girl" really trains you to do
5:17 — Why a perfect parent would be bad for your kid
6:40 — The chicken dinner blowup
7:42 — Why yelling isn’t the part that does the damage
8:09 — How to rewrite the ending of a bad moment
9:43 — The TV remote and the tantrum that follows
13:15 — Stop judging yourself by your kid’s reaction
14:44 — The birthday party meltdown that became a win
16:57 — It’s not your job to make your kids happy
17:52 — What a real boundary actually is
20:28 — The grilled cheese cut the wrong way
21:37 — The two questions every kid is asking
24:22 — When kindness without boundaries backfires
25:40 — How chasing happiness wires kids for anxiety
27:46 — What anxiety really is
30:40 — Three lines to say when your kid is hurting
33:43 — Why boring chores make better humans
36:21 — How chores give kids a sense of purpose
38:52 — Letting kids do real things in the real world
Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️
Netflix – https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD
Spotify – https://dub.sh/axUXylv
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