Whatever you think is wrong with you once kept you safe.
In this clip, Dr. Gabor Maté and Jay Shetty talk about why we care so much about what others think. Gabor says it starts when we’re very young and it follows us for life.
Gabor shares the story of a woman who forgot her native language. He explains why her shame was never the full story. He asks one question that shows where you’re not saying no. Then he guides a woman through a live session on stage, with a thousand people watching.
Learn about the difference between "Have I done enough?" and "Am I enough?" And learn why Gabor says your yeses don’t mean much until you can say no.
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Chapters
0:00 Why we live in other people’s minds
0:48 The need to be seen as a child
2:34 How do you see someone as they are
5:59 Why we only feel valuable when we’re busy
6:36 "Have I done enough?" vs. "Am I enough?"
8:44 The one-day-old baby test
9:15 What stress does to your body
11:50 Why it takes illness to wake us up
12:57 Where in your life aren’t you saying no
15:07 Why a toddler says no before yes
17:40 What Elvis gave up to please others
19:06 Gabor guides a woman live on stage
25:12 Why your flaws started as survival
25:59 The woman who forgot her language
29:35 Self-improvement vs. self-acceptance
31:28 Feeling too young to help others
35:48 The one question to ask yourself
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