The opposite of self-doubt isn’t confidence. If you’re waiting to feel confident before you act, you could be waiting forever.
In this episode, Dr. Shadé Zahrai and Jay Shetty talk about what really drives your self-doubt. She says it comes down to four things. She shows you how to spot which one is yours.
Shadé shares a study where people were given a fake scar. Then the scar was secretly wiped off. They still felt judged by everyone they met. She opens up about hiding behind her cubicle at a law firm, sure she was a hiring mistake. And Jay shares why his hands shake before a big talk, and why he stopped fighting it.
Learn why feeling like a fraud can be a good sign. And learn the short reply to say when someone tells you, "You’ve changed."
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Chapters
0:00 The four drivers behind your self-doubt
1:56 The fake scar experiment
5:14 Four habits of people who don’t accept themselves
9:48 Why you are not your thoughts
12:13 What Nobel Prize winners do outside of work
14:04 Why your brain loves the worst case
17:28 Why your hands shake when you care
19:40 Feeling like a hiring mistake at a law firm
24:44 Why imposter syndrome has the wrong name
30:49 The real opposite of self-doubt
33:43 Bruno and the endless complaining
38:47 The "I could, I will" list
41:08 The three-second fix for speaking up in meetings
43:05 When a coworker takes credit for your work
49:53 Why she asked her husband to marry her
53:11 What to say when people tell you you’ve changed
56:55 The driver who just cut you off
59:18 Care less, care more
Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️
Netflix – https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD
Spotify – https://dub.sh/axUXylv
Episode Resources:
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https://www.instagram.com/shadezahrai
https://www.linkedin.com/in/shadezahrai/
http://www.youtube.com/@Dr.ShadeZahrai
@shadezahrai
Watch the full episode with Dr. Shadé Zahrai:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4joNCXHGuE
