When you fall for someone’s potential, you’re often falling for a version of them that only exists in your head.
In this clip, Jay Shetty talks about what to do when the people you love don’t change, whether it’s a partner, a parent, or someone in your family.
Jay shares the quote that changed his life about how people reveal themselves, the question to ask before you spend another year hoping, and the moment he realized his vision for his wife was more selfish than it looked.
Learn why trying to change someone is often control dressed up as care, what a plant can teach you about your role in their life, and why the most loving choice can sometimes be to let go.
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Chapters
0:00 — People change when they’re ready, not when you beg
1:14 — The quote that changed everything
2:42 — Why potential is a projection of your own wound
4:19 — The question to ask if the pattern stays the same
5:28 — Believe what they do, not what they say
8:02 — Stop mistaking your control for love
10:21 — Why radical acceptance isn’t resignation
12:28 — Why we stay
13:13 — The selfish side of seeing potential
14:10 — You’re not their mirror, you’re their environment
16:00 — When the most loving choice is to let go
17:01 — Why people shout when they’re angry
18:02 — Priorities vs. preferences
18:59 — What’s actually under your control
Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️
Netflix – https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD
Spotify – https://dub.sh/axUXylv
