Saying "let it go" makes you feel like you lost. Saying "let them" makes you feel like you rose above it.
In this clip, Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty talk about the Let Them theory. It starts with a rude boss and a pile of dishes in the sink. But Mel says that’s only half of it.
She shares the talk Chris had with her about cardboard boxes and a messy counter. One sentence from him changed how she heard it. She explains why you can’t change another person, and what you can do instead. And she gives a 30-day rule for after a breakup.
Learn about the second part of the theory that people never tattoo on themselves. And learn why a simple apology can help someone you love want to change.
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Chapters
0:00 Why work stress steals your power
1:54 Why "let it go" feels like losing
4:27 The partner who never does the dishes
5:11 Why you can’t change another person
8:26 How Chris asked for what he needed
10:06 When their behavior shows you the truth
13:32 The test for loving someone as they are
14:12 What every thought about them costs you
16:34 Letting your parents be disappointed
20:36 The hardest worker in the classroom
24:03 The 30-day rule after a breakup
25:28 Why the 11-week mark matters
28:22 Why "just love yourself" doesn’t work
31:45 Supporting vs. enabling
34:01 How to help someone heal
36:41 The ABC method for helping someone change
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