Don’t go grocery shopping when you’re starving.
You grab the first thing you see.
You grab what looks exciting, not what you need.
Quinlan Walther says dating works the same way.
In this episode, Quinlan Walther and Jay Shetty talk about the difference between wanting love and being ready for it.
Quinlan shares four steps to trusting yourself. She explains why you don’t have to be perfect before you meet someone, and why love as a feeling is never enough.
She opens up about the time she lost herself chasing someone to choose her, and she shares what her mom’s final months taught her.
Learn why the spark can fool you. And learn why Quinlan says you can’t hold your partner accountable.
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Chapters
0:00 Why you shouldn’t date while starving
2:03 The four C’s of self-trust
4:10 Why you don’t have to be complete first
6:13 What to look for in how someone treats people
9:03 Good feedback vs. unreasonable demands
12:08 What to do when dating wears you out
14:16 Does the spark really matter?
15:34 When an obsession feels like a spark
17:22 Chemistry vs. compatibility
22:15 Is love enough?
24:46 Why we put up with the people we want most
26:43 Losing herself, and what her mom taught her
32:16 The over-loving scoreboard
35:06 The criticism and withdrawal loop
36:43 What your partner says about how you love yourself
38:42 When your marriage feels distant
44:33 Boundaries that protect you, not threaten them
49:05 Is there such a thing as "the one"?
58:25 How to trust yourself after a breakup
1:05:08 The final five
Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️
Netflix – https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD
Spotify – https://dub.sh/axUXylv
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Episode Resources:
https://www.quinlanwalther.com/
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@quinlanwalther
https://www.youtube.com/@QuinlanWalther-d3u
